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25 (More or Less) Sad Songs

This is the first post I’ve made on the Joyous Crybaby blog in close to a decade—but I knew I was letting it hang around for some reason. Today I have one, which is that my friend Lou Mindar posted his own 25 Saddest Songs list and asked for other such songs/lists. Not that I’m reviving Joyous Crybaby, but it seems like an easy place to make a kinda large list like this and it perfectly aligns with the Joyous Crybaby theme. Sad songs are, of course, sad, but they are also beautiful and beloved. Back in the day, I kept a page of Songs That Make US Cry, and many of these first appeared there.

I haven’t tried to put these in rank order, and I haven’t had time to write up the kind of thoughtful commentaries that Lou included in his list. Rather, I’ve treated these more like a play list, attempting at least a little to include contrasts and transitions and echoes through the list. Like an old mix tape, which it’s clear is my era. I’m self-conscious about how this list reflects that era and my age. I tried to fit in a couple of more recent things, but, really, they just weren’t as emotional for me. And it’s also true that I have not kept up with popular music much since about 2000, not because of a lack of interest so much as overwork and other stuff that goes with it. I’m trying to retrieve myself these days, so I do things like pause and make a sad songs list. Thanks to Lou for the inspiration.

This list goes slightly over 25—with two songs by Joe Jackson’s great double album Big World, two arias because I couldn’t decide which was sadder, and a couple of extras at the end, so really a total of 29 songs, all of which are more or less sad. I felt it important to include some angry-sad songs in addition to the wistful-sad ones, and, of course, sadness often carries at least a tinge of hope. A few other songs came really close but didn’t make it to this final list: REM’s “Everybody Hurts,” The Who’s “Behind Blue Eyes,” Melissa Etheridge’s “Breathe,” and Neil Young’s “Old Man.”

Enjoy! Weep!

1. Paradise

Written and performed by John Prine

2. Pretty Bird

Written by Hazel Dickens

Performed a capella by Hazel Dickens on the album Hazel & Alice [Gerrard]

3. The Boxer

Written by Paul Simon

Performed by Simon & Garfunkel

4. Love Has No Pride

Written by Eric Justin Kaz and Libby Titus

Performed by Bonnie Raitt

5. Rainy Night in Georgia

Written by Tony Joe White

Performed by Brook Benton

6. a. Shanghai Sky and 6. b. We Can’t Live Together

Written and performed by Joe Jackson

7. Eleanor Rigby

Written by Paul McCartney and John Lennon

Performed by The Beatles

8. Backwater Blues

Written and performed by Bessie Smith

9. Nocturne, B. 49: Lento con gran espressione in C-sharp minor

Written by Frederic Chopin

Performed by Janusz Olejniczak

10. Little Green

Written and performed by Joni Mitchell

11. Fast Car

Written and performed by Tracy Chapman

12. Death Song

Traditional song arranged and performed by R. Carlos Nakai

13. Redemption Song

Written and performed by Bob Marley

14. Wish You Were Here

Written by David Gilmour and Roger Waters

Performed by Pink Floyd

15. Asimbonanga (Mandela)

Written by Johnny Clegg

Performed by Johnny Clegg and Savuka

16. Crime for Crime

Written and performed by Ani DiFranco

17. Hang Down Your Head

Written by Tom Waits and Kathleen Brennan

Performed by Tom Waits

18. I Loved a Lass

Traditional arranged by Terry Cox, Bert Jansch, Jacqui McShee, John Renbourn, Danny Thompson

Performed by The Pentangle

19. Devil Song

Written and performed by Beth Orton

20. Killing Me Softly

Written by Charles Fox and Norman Gimbel

Performed by Roberta Flack

21. With or Without You

Written by Bono and U2

Performed by U2

22 a. and b. I could not choose which of these was sadder, so feel free to pick one or listen to both.

Un bel di (from Madame Butterfly)

Written by Giacomo Puccini

Performed by Leontyne Price and the Orchestra de Radio-Canada and Jacques Beaudry

Ebben? Ne andrò lontana (from La Wally)

Written by Alfredo Catalani

Performed by Angela Gheorghiu and the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra and Marco Armiliato

23. Mona Lisas and Mad Hatters

Written and performed by Elton John

24. Me and Bobby McGee

Written by Kris Kristofferson

Performed by Janis Joplin

25. Blowin’ in the Wind

Written by Bob Dylan

Performed by Bob Dylan

Performed by Peter, Paul, and Mary

26. Gone for Good

Written by Mark Sandman, Dana Colley, and Billy Conway

Performed by Morphine

PostScript. The Lark Ascending

Written by Ralph Vaughn-Williams

Performed by Hilary Hahn with the London Symphony Orchestra and Sir Colin Davis

Pretty Bird

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This is one of my all-time favorite songs—for its melancholy, yes, but also for the amazing, unaccompanied a cappella voice of Hazel Dickens and for her story of overcoming poverty and finding herself an artist of the highest caliber. I thought I had included her on this blog already, but evidently I was just remembering posting her obituary on Facebook when she died in April of 2011. (Usually I link to lyrics, but the versions online are not at all accurate. “Love is such a delicate thing” gets particularly garbled. So, we’ll just have to listen.)

I first heard the Hazel & Alice (Gerrard) album when I was in high school in the mid-seventies. Probably they performed at the Laurel Theater in Knoxville, Tennessee. Although the Laurel burned down in 1982 and was rebuilt, I remember the creaky floors and old bricks of the original church structure. I heard a lot of folk music there by the likes of John McCutcheon on the hammered dulcimer and a lot of poetry readings there by the likes of Robert Creeley. There was always something going on at the Laurel Theater, and evidently there still is, though I haven’t been there in years.

Both Hazel Dickens’s life and the continued vitality of the Laurel Theater are testaments to the enduring nature of the spirit of creativity in all manner of people and places. And yet, it remains tragic that anyone has to be born into situations like that of the Dickens family, or that artists have to struggle quite so much to survive, as reflected once again in this Salon article by Scott Timberg about the impact of the current economic bad times on the creative class. (It’s bad, very bad.)

It is this dilemma that we call the human condition—the bad and good all rolled together. And another story sent to me today (via this video) reflects this as well. It’s related to this post because it’s about a bird—not one in song, but a living creature on this earth, a magnificent bald eagle whose beak was shot off by some stinkin’ human being I can’t understand. On the other hand, there are some truly lovely human beings who have worked to give her a new beak. It seems to me that some of us work endlessly to repair the damage caused by those whose hearts are bleak, unsympathetic places.

In the meantime, a stray kitty has shown up on our doorstep. I’m pretty sure that someone dumped her—she’s about six or seven months old, not at all feral, and wanted nothing but to come in and get a bowl of grub. She was skinny as a rail except for that slightly bulging belly that indicated that whatever person had trained her to be so affectionate had not bothered to spay her. Tomorrow morning, she will have her little kitty abortion and then be back in my care. The last thing I need is another cat, but I will at least foster her until she finds a new home. If Jupiter and Kollwitz can tolerate her, I suppose we will keep her. As my mother said, “Saving these little lives is a good thing.” As the vet tech said when I took her in today, “Well, kitty, you lucked onto the best cat mom in the world.” I could accomplish worse in life.

But in this day and age, it is beyond me to understand how someone could let a cat or dog go unsprayed or unneutered for more than a second past the appropriate age for surgery. Or how someone could dump an animal he or she had so clearly treated kindly before. It simply boggles my mind.

Not that any of us is pure good. When I said to the vet today that I felt a touch of sorrow about getting the stray a kitty abortion, she said, “Don’t.” She informed me that if I had taken this little cat to Animal Services, she would have been euthanized immediately. They can’t keep pregnant cats, she noted, because they can’t vaccinate kittens until they are two months old, and they can’t keep unvaccinated cats in the shelter. They try to place as many as possible in foster homes, but they are always full. They don’t have the resources to do a spay-abortion, since there is such an overpopulation already. So any kittens under two months and any mothers-to-be are killed instantly.

We all face difficult choices. But indeed some people are more evil than others, and some people become forces of bad because they don’t stop and think. What does it mean to shoot the beak off an eagle? What does it mean to dump a pregnant kitten? What does it mean to fail to support public schools and universities? What does it mean to support tax breaks for the wealthy while the poor and the disabled and the elderly struggle? My brother said to me last week that he feels as though he is living in Weimar Germany just before the collapse into Nazism. I agreed, and I said to him, “The one thing I can promise is that I will not be one of the average folks who will cave in to the Nazis. They can kill me first.” So many disturbing things go on every day. I don’t want to be one of the ones who does them. I want to be on the side of the angels, as imperfectly as it may be possible for me to do that. Sometimes that means being too honest for some people’s taste, and sometimes I flub up and hurt people, sometimes even those I could never construe as deserving it. But I have some pretty good ethical boundaries that I am devoted to keeping firm.

One is that I actually do the job that I am paid to do, unlike so many scammers that surround me.

Another is that I rescue animals in need.

And I respect the right of people to live a decent life even if they care primarily about something other than money and even if they are born into less than ideal circumstances.

That includes artists with their connection to the holy rather than the materialistic.

May we survive.